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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh wait you have a kid.

Nope.  Fix it.  Deal.  Not reasons to leave the father of your kid.[/quote]

And your concern shouldn't be whether you can find a new, better husband.  Your post should be about what is best for your daughter.  That is your first priority.  [/quote]

OP, I do agree with you but I think the two are intertwined. I think my daughter would be better off if I could remarry a better husband reasonably quickly. I think my daughter would be worse off if I could not manage to do this and instead face a rocky dating future. [/quote]

I think this mind set is interesting.  You say he's a good dad but your plan is to pretty much find replacement family unit as quickly as possible?  This new person won't be your child's father.

You're going to be giving up 50 percent of her life.  Holidays.  He will date and move on and your daughter will have a step-mother.  Your daughter might have additional siblings.

I just don't think the main focus here should be how quick you can find a new husband.[/quote]

Thank you, I have thought this out carefully and am aware of all you write. I think it might be nice for her to have more siblings if he were to remarry, which I would not begrudge at all. She has a father, I wouldn't expect a new husband to be her father. But I think it would be good for her to see a husband wife relationship where the man is respected by the wife. [/quote]
Please, this is not about your DD.  Don't use her as an excuse.

What you are saying to her is that your father is a loser, and don't marry someone like him.[/quote]

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