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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should move to a place that makes you feel like less of a failure (and isn’t a second rate local school for your kid). Where do you live now and what is your housing budget? What does your custody agreement require in terms of schools?

I live in Anne Arundel Co where people are more normal. I think you’d be happier. [/quote]

This. Why on earth did you move into a rental with a crappy school when you have a kid?

Find a good public school district and move there, even if it means a 1-BR or less nice rental. Figure out a career path to make more money. Assuming you're in the DMV area, look into IT consulting. Lots of positions don't require coding skills, like being a tester. You start with a low salary but there's lots of room to grow and get higher paying jobs with some experience.

OP, I'm sorry you're dealing with a bad situation right now. You do need to take some responsibility and turn things around. You picked a low paying profession and chose to live in a place with a crappy school for your kid. If you're paying for a 2-bedroom, then you likely could afford someone's basement apartment or some other apartment in a good school district for the same rent you're paying now. Recognize that you're making choices all along and take more ownership over that. You'll have more control over your life and it will make you much happier. Take care.[/quote]

OP here and Im not sure why you assume I picked a low paying profession.[b] I have a graduate degree and make $200K. It’s still not enough for that life as I got a late start and need to save.[/b][/quote]

OP, do you have high student debt? I would be thrilled to be earning $200K/year! [/quote]

PS- I agree that on that salary you should be able to get a 2 bedroom anywhere in the DMV. I will also say that your child could really shine in a less prestigious school. I have seen students really flourish in the Einstein cluster in MOCO. There are many students who are children of Ph.D's, Ivy grads, and accomplished artists/musicians. They just choose to live in Silver Spring.[/quote]

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