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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m kind of with you, OP.  
  Outsourcing to a cleaner every other week helps somewhat, but it isn’t that helpful.  If we were really only talking about 4 hours/wk of work, then all of this complaining would be ridiculous.
  [b]But outsourcing daily cleaning really isn’t that expensive.  It’s not cheap, but it’s considerably less expensive than other alternatives like divorcing and maintaining two households or quitting your job/going part time (as long as you make a higher hourly wage than your housekeeper).  [/b]

Also, I would argue that it isn’t any harder to teach kids to clean when you have a regular housekeeper.  When you have this, then kids are used to things being clean, and they feel like that’s the way things ought to be, so they tolerate less mess.  My kids were used to having a clean room, dusted and vacuumed, with a made bed and clothes put away.  Now that they are older, and we don’t need a daily housekeeper anymore, when they have to clean their rooms, they only feel clean when they are dusted and vacuumed with made beds and clothes put away.  Same goes for bathrooms, kitchen, etc.  If it had been up to me, they would have spent their childhoods digging clean clothes from a huge pile in a hamper that I never completely got folded.

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What about the disrespect he is showing you by outright refusing to perform a very reasonable request by you (doing his fair share of the cleaning)?[/quote]

I don’t think it’s about respect.  It’s not that he thinks that *I* should do the cleaning.  He just doesn’t like to cook, clean, do laundry, or do yard work.  He likes his work (as do I), and he likes being a husband and father.   Why should he have to spend his leisure time doing laundry or mowing the lawn?  Why should I have to?  [/quote]

I used to solve the problem by living in an apartment, no yard work, less cleaning and fixes are
Taken care of by property management.

Now we live in a house and our AC broke down, I am not lifting a finger as I have a higher heat tolerance, let’s see how long it takes
Him to do something.[/quote]

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