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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t. I just can’t. I have to be attracted, though oddly I am the type where your mind makes you beautiful.

That said I married/divorced someone without a brain whom I found attractive but wasn’t truly attracted to physically. Not as much as I should have been. He was attractive, and others found him attractive, and he was the path to making sure my eggs didn’t shrivel and dry.  But I did not find him attractive and completely obliterated my responsibility of ensuring there was *mutual* physical desire to avoid a sexless marriage. It’s like when two cute people marry and they know they aren’t all warts and boils on their eye, but neither person is truly hot for the other. Maybe they prefer a different body type, or height, or personality, but not so much that they would throw away a wonderful relationship with really honorable qualities and good enough sex.

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This is akin to my experience. He is objectively handsome. He is a hard worker, made money. I was not attracted to him after year 2, and 15 years later, got divorced. I had/have so, so much more sustained chemistry with the men two men I've been in a relationship with post divorce. And I am *so* much happier. That's really the main thing. I am so much happier. With a dude or without. [/quote]

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