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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you like asking your husband for an allowance you will enjoy it. It totally changes the relationship dynamic over time. Also I plan to retire so having my own retirement is extremely nice. [/quote]

I SAHMed for two years and never once asked my DH for "an allowance." We have a joint checking account and a shared credit card. I even put money into my individual savings during that time (we keep separate savings accounts) because if we had excess money beyond our expenses and joint savings, we'd just divide it between or accounts.

I mean, if the question was "Will staying home change my relationship with my husband? By the way, we don't communicate at all, don't share finances, and are competitive and resentful towards one another." then I would get some of these responses. But it sounds like OP and her DH have a strong relationship with a good foundation. She should do what she wants, and that might be going back to work, but when you say that staying home means she'll have to ask for an allowance or that it will totally upend her relationship, that actually says a lot more about you than her.[/quote]

OP here. We have a very similar situation. We both have a savings account that we had coming into the relationship. We kept those and have a joint checking account. We put the same money into both. One is now a savings account and the other is an emergency fund. The rest do our money is divided into a joint account, retirement, stocks, etc. [/quote]

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