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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay so I’ll chime in because I’m like your sister, maybe not to that extend but still.

We have no family nearby and haven’t had a time alone since kids were born, I complain I want alone time and date night but know that there will be meltdowns so I don’t even want to go through it.

I’m obsessed about the food we eat, family members have color cancer and other types of illnesses, that I hope and desperately want to control and avoid so I’m hoping things like food and what we put in our bodies are as safe as possible. Yes up to date on all vaccinations bc I want to control illness. Here is how you can help, try finding easy recipes or some good healthy takeout, and they’ll welcome it. I know i did when I got smarter  about reading labels.

We don’t have elaborate cups but I don’t reuse cups, for myself included. There’s spit and food particles and smells, it’s disgusting and I won’t have it. Now this is where you could help, when my mom visited she put them in the dishwasher not knowing it was hand wash only and they actually...turned out clean and great. So I now do them by dishwasher.

I never sleep trained and I regret it. I hoped things will get better but they never did so three year old still wakes up a few times crying, not able to settle, etc. we don’t cosleep but I get it, you’ve screwed up the sleep and now is too late to fix so you keep hoping it will be improve.

I try the whole compassionate parenting acknowledging feelings or letting them have their feelings out, so I’ve never done timeouts. I was spanked as a kid and sent to time out and I felt very ashamed. Yes there’s tantrums that timeouts may help but I don’t want that.

Now all this to say....you shouldn’t judge because everyone makes different choices, they may not be right or make sense to you, but you can only offer support, acknowledgement, and help where you can, otherwise there’s nothing else to do.[/quote]
OK I’m going to respond to you as kindly as I can but as frankly as I’m going to be. Part of your issues anxiety just like the original poster sister it’s anxiety. And your anxiety is telling you that these are just choices and other people need to just respect them. But every choice that you spoke of you complain about list of the negative affects you don’t want to hear alternative solutions other than you’re already not working behavior. Would be do you don’t really reuse cups I reuse cups I rinse  them out and I wash them sometimes I hand was, some I put in the dishwasher, it’s just a freaking cup nobody’s gonna die from a cup.
the fact that you make that an issue may be a red flag to yourself that you are dealing with anxiety. You didn’t sleep train before but you can sleep train now parenting is hard it’s just hard it can be on comfortable it can be frustrating but you have to get through it and there will be periods where your kid may be uncomfortable or doing something or learning something that is new and they don’t like and they will cry or they will push back against it. That’s life you have to learn how to be the grown-up to lead them through that discomfort I don’t spank either maybe what you need to do is take an actual classes so that you learn how to positively parent and instill discipline because it sounds like you’re flying by the seat of your pants. And by the way a lot of us try to eat healthy and do things that were home keep our bodies healthy a lot of us have people we know are people were laid into her cancer but you cannot control everything and you try to control everything is a hell that’s worse than cancer it’s actually a cancer on your mind and your emotions and that gets inflicted on everyone around you including your kids.[/quote]

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