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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's unquestionably a thing in the highly educated, UMC, elite professional circles that people like Liz Bruenig run in[/quote]

This.

And if you were in a different socio-economic bracket in a different part of the country, having your kids in your mid to late 30s would be a thing.

It's not personal.  You're just going against the herd a bit in terms of timing and people will endlessly comment on people who are outside the norm because [b]it makes insecure people feel forced to question their own decision making.[/b]  If everyone does the same thing, it feels safer.[/quote]

When I see a 39-year old with a 13-year old I am not remotely insecure about my own decision to wait until 32 to have my kids (who ended up being twins so I didn't have any after that). I'm very happy with the age at which I got to have my kids. I had so much fun through my 20's and early 30's and once I had my kids I was settled enough in my career to be able to have a flexible but still high-paying job. Win win win as far as I'm concerned. Not that everyone has to want what I have, but I say that to contradict your statement that I am remotely insecure about anyone's choice to have a child year before I did. [/quote]

lol no one envies people who have twins at 32 anyway so who cares[/quote]

DP. Are you kidding? This would have been ideal for many of my friends. One pregnancy at an age when lots of people are having their first kid, two kids, done. I'm sure infant twins are a handful, but so is basically any combination of young kids.[/quote]

Twin mom here. Twin pregnancies are horrible, the infant years go by in a blur. You don't get the idyllic dream of nursing one baby and sleeping when the baby sleeps with twins. It sounds good in theory but is the opposite in real life. [/quote]

DP and while I'm sure you're right that it's very difficult in ways singleton moms can't quite appreciate, I agree with PPP that twin pregnancy at 32 would inspire a lot of envy in me and many people in my friend group.  I know someone who had triplets in her mid-thirties and[b] against all reason I'm jealous, even though I'm well aware that a pregnancy like that would be a hellscape for me[/b].  But knowing you'd have more than one and not having to get pregnant again closing in on 40 still feels like a win.  [/quote]

[b]It's because you're not thinking about it rationally. A triplet pregnancy will destroy your body, guaranteed.[/b] You'll have to get lipo to fix the stretched out skin or else just deal with it for the rest of your life. You'd most likely be on bedrest starting sometime in the 2nd or early 3rd trimester. Triplet infants? The stuff of nightmares. I hope you have a helpful husband AND the money to hire a night nurse.[/quote]

Yes, that is literally exactly what I said.[/quote]

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