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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's unquestionably a thing in the highly educated, UMC, elite professional circles that people like Liz Bruenig run in[/quote]

This.

And if you were in a different socio-economic bracket in a different part of the country, having your kids in your mid to late 30s would be a thing.

It's not personal.  You're just going against the herd a bit in terms of timing and people will endlessly comment on people who are outside the norm because it makes insecure people feel forced to question their own decision making.  If everyone does the same thing, it feels safer.[/quote]

OP here. I get this but it's weird that people still feel the need to comment on it to me at 39 because I have a thirteen year old and they maybe have a toddler or baby. [b]I sometimes feel like saying, look I'm sorry you're stuck in the parenting trenches right now but you'll come out on the other side too, lol. [/b]It doesn't stay that hard forever.[/quote]

That's kind of rude.

Unless the people who have the toddler or baby are rude to you, like saying "oh, well, you must not have gone to college" or something similar, there's no reason to be flippant to them. Being surprised that you have a 13-year old when you're 39 isn't rude in and of itself. [/quote]

You don't think it's rude and invasive to aggressively question people about their age and reproductive choices in a professional setting?? I'm honestly amazed at how many people have thought it was appropriate to say something to me about my age and my children's ages at work. Including asking me if my pregnancies were intended and if I was religious! (and also joking if I know how babies are made  :roll: )[/quote]

Yeah, that's exactly what I said.  :roll:

Go back and read the post before the one I commented on. [/quote]

You said her thought (which she didn't express) was rude but the people questioning her are the rude ones imo. How about we just stop commenting on women's reproductive choices, bodies, ages, choices about aging, period? It does blow my mind what people think is normal to say. [/quote]

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