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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Moms need time to themselves. Actually, all people need this, but we've set up society so that moms really struggle to get it. I think in an ideal world, most moms would would to spend Mother's Day, or any holiday really, with their loved ones. But many moms so rarely get that time to themselves. So Mother's Day and their birthday are the rare occasion when they feel like they can insist on it and no one can complain. That's why a lot of moms use Mother's Day to get a break. Not because they don't love their kids or don't want to celebrate with them, but because it is often their only chance to get a break.

If you know a mom who wants to spend Mother's Day on her own, instead of assuming this means she doesn't love her kids (wtf?), ask yourself if this is someone who maybe could use some additional support in some ways. Especially if you're married to that mom. If your spouse is saying "I want this day to myself," that's her way of saying she doesn't get enough time to herself. If it bothers you, you should be asking yourself why a few hours on her own is something she only feels entitled to on "her" day.

Also, a more general point: it is gross to judge people for their feelings about their own lives. I hear it all the time: "she shouldn't feel that way", "she should be grateful", "she shouldn't complain." Telling other people how to feel is a one-way ticket to misery for all involved. Is someone needs a break, they need a break! No amount of telling them how grateful they should be, or how they should want to be around their kids, is going to change the fact that they feel like they need a break. Honestly, people are so lacking in empathy.[/quote]

All of this, 1000%. [/quote]

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