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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree he's a wack job but at the same time we baby and protect our kids way to much. To say your kid would have been yanked after the first game doesn't say too much about you either. Not defending the coach all. Just making the statement that parents are wrong for always creating a safe bubble around they're kids not allowing them to experience the real world either. Again not to this extreme explained here but Please parents let the coach yell at your kids sometimes with emotion. Its a life skill they need to be coachable in many different life situations To tell them they are only doing a good job or always quietly explaining the things they didn't correct isn't always a correct way to deal with it either. I see too many parents feeling its not OK for a coach to yelll at their kid in front of other parents and players because they and their kid will be embarrassed. News flash for everyone whether your kid is the worst player on the field or the best on the field when they screw up its OK for the coach to show a variety of emotional with them. Anger and disappointment is just as good for the kid as positivity and praise are. Please stop the over protecting bubble like world you're keeping your kid in. Youre only screwing  them up for later in life when they see the real world doesn't work like that.[/quote]

Common now. Coaches shouldn’t need to yell whether it’s in front of anyone or not. There are much better and more effective ways to communicate than yelling.  It’s not parents over-protecting their kids if a full grown adult man is yelling/screaming at their DC 10 year old DC. [/quote]

Again stop being so over protective with the kids. Yelling at and telling them they are wrong in front of other is a teaching point to get through to everyone. Everyone can learn from Johnnys mistake including Johnny. Travel soccer is becoming an over priced rec environment. Travel is supposed to be a competitive thing not just to play and have fun. Its a different set of goals. True competitive sports are being watered down because of business. More and more you can buy your way into the environment. It used to be the only kids playing in these environment were the kids who were more talented and more competitive. They would have tryouts and select the few that deserved to make it. Now we have so many opportunities and so many clubs anyone who wants to play can. Its really watered down the the competitive aspect. Its sad when a player or coach who are actually wired like true athletes are (most won't understand that) are being out numbered by families who just want their DC to be included rather than earn their spot.[/quote]

Stop thinking that they are little adults and at this age it is a game, meant to be fun and enjoyed. Coaching is to guide and teach without a primary focus being on the competition per say.

It is inappropriate at such young ages, and yes, they are young at 9 friggin years old. [/quote]

Then if as a parent you feel that way put your kid in a recreational environment. Its your choice. You cant expect the sport to adapt to your expectations. [/quote]

Rec coaches do the the same thing.

The only difference is the time commitment. The kids don't know the difference other than they are more challenged on the field. They don't need to be challenged from the sideline as well. Travel is not professional and simply being on a travel team did not transform a 9 year old into a 27 year old professional either.

If you need to yell at a 9 year old you suck at communicating. How many teachers yell at their grade school students? How many of them yell at the students while taking a math test?

The problem is you honestly believe they are coaches when in truth, they are teachers and they should act as such. You may have had a high school coach yell at you but it is unlikely that you had a youth coach yell at you in the same way as coaches do today. And if a HS coach yells, as HS student you are old enough to decide for yourself whether or not it is ok. But grade school kids don't have that autonomy when heir parents are putting them in these environments and then at the first sign of losing a game, or worse, losing a role on the team, they turn on their kid and let the coach get away with it because of their own insecurities no matter how poorly it affects the kid.

Just ask yourself this, if the coach is so awesome 3 days a week then why does he need to yell at them during the game to do what he wants? Clearly, whatever he tried to convey he failed at if he needed to yell at a bunch of 9 year olds.[/quote]

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