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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your baby might not be neuro-typical (NT).

Your baby might be an HSP (highly sensitive person)--there are individuals who are HSP in every kind of social animal that has been studied about this; the group needs HSP individuals to survive (there are also Low SP individuals in every group as well).  HSP indivduals have a fine-tuned or intensified senses.  Pre-industrializtion, they helped the group because they are the first to detect the predator or prey, recognize changes in the weather, tell that the food is spoiled or poisoned etc.  In modern life, it's hard for them because clothes can be itchy, sounds too loud, etc.

My now 18 y.o. is an HSP and a bit neuro-diverse (not NT, so SN--special needs) and is headed to a top 10 college in the fall (I'm trying to say, she's thriving).  But raising her was really tough, and it started out this way.  I aged so much that first year, from exhaustion.

I also have an NT kid and the difference between NT kid and SN kid is like raising a dog and a dolphin.  To continue the analogy, the first step is recognizing you have a dolphin, not a dog, and treating accordingly.  Also, fyi, not getting advice from dog parents. Dog parents will not understand why your little dolphin won't do what their dogs can do so easily, and will blame your parenting.  But both types can perform--it's just recognizing what you have, and finding the right environment.

I'd reach out to your pediatrician and discuss it, OP.  The issue isn't your wife complaining.  The issue is that you have a high-maintenance baby and you both need some support and coping strategies.[/quote]

This is what I think too. DCUM will tell you that all kids can be sleep trained etc but I have two very different kids and we did everything the same so I know they came out very different. Talk to the pediatrician. And go easy on your wife and yourself . You are both obviously trying to do the best for your child.[/quote]

Dp. I wouldn't reach out to the pediatrician as most really can't offer advice.  Your wife needs to realize that she has done a great job and eventually with sleep she will realize that her baby will sometimes be unhappy and that is ok.  Nobody can be happy all the time.   Your baby will also change and not mind being alone.

Good luck![/quote]

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