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We are also first Gen immigrants. We have changed homes and neighborhoods six times since we got married. Started in a studio apartment, now in a 10,000+ sqft home. We chose our life for us, not for others. Some friends have stayed with us, some have dropped off. True friendship are those that are maintained by both sides, not the ones we have to keep by holding ourselves back. What's more important is that we have made new friends. My kids are US-born. What's important for them is that they melt into the American culture and understand the importance of building a good social and professional network. We work hard for what we earn, and I don't feel at all guilty spending the money I earn on things I enjoy.  To those that do, you only have yourself to blame and I pray that your children are (edit: not) permanently harmed by the same poison. [/quote]

:roll: We also spend on things that we enjoy. We certainly do not enjoy a huge house because we are also pretty environmentally conscious. Examples of mindless conspicuous consumption to us only means that the person has not evolved in the hierarchy of needs as listed by Maslow. The truly wealthy people we know life modestly (comparatively). Our kids are also US-born and have no dearth of social and professional network. They are also incredibly high achieving and the doors have opened for them by their own merit.

You sound very stupid. [/quote]

PP here. The point, which you missed, is that what you enjoy and what other people enjoy is not the same. These are subjective preferences. To hold up your own subjective preferences as if they are objectively or morally superior to other people's preferences is irrational and wrong. What is "mindless consumption" is not to others. You are not the judge of these things. Yet here you are, immersed in your illusion that you know better, passing judgment on the preferences of others, and calling them stupid for simply not preferring the same things as you. I also question how many truly wealthy people you can possibly know, given that you artificially hold yourself back from consumption because you think it makes you a better person. I've come to understand that people have different ideas of what qualifies as "wealthy".

Congrats on your kids' achievements. Keep in mind that part of our job as parents is to provide an elevated foundation on which our children can rise up higher than us. Towards this goal, it's important for us to provide our kids with every advantage and privilege that we can. It's because generations past provided increasing levels of support that human civilization can advance as a whole. If we all required our kids to survive on "their own merit", we would all still be living in straw huts by the river.[/quote]

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