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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s often a definitional issue. To some people, an “accident” or “oops” means, “we weren’t *trying* but we weren’t using BC either.” I think that’s lame in this day and age. If you weren’t using BC and using it properly, it’s not an oops. [/quote]
If you were hoping to avoid pregnancy, and got pregnant, it's an oops, even if you weren't using BC entirely properly.

Many of the available BC methods have reduced effectiveness when certain corners are cut. And cutting those corners can be very tempting in the moment when the risk seems low and remote. DH and I weren't 100% perfect in our BC use during dating or marriage, but we've been lucky and never had an accidental pregnancy. If our luck had gone the other way, I would definitely consider it an oops.[/quote]

Yeah, I hear you, and I do think that's how most people use the term. And I know how it goes in the heat of the moment. But to me, it's like, if my teenage kid came home and said he had "accidentally" gotten a girl pregnant, and I said, "were you using BC?" and he said, "no, not that time," it's not an accident. Like getting hurt in a car crash because you "accidentally" didn't put your seatbelt on. The outcome may not be desired or intended -- it may be "unplanned" -- but it's not really an "oops," either.[/quote]

I mean, these are kind of silly semantics. When I got pregnant with my third, unplanned, it was when we hadn't been careful with birth control. When I told my DH, he literally said, "Oops."[/quote]

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