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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Spring is different than summer and boys are different than girls. After watching my 3 kids go through private and paying attention to this red shirt phenomenon, I’d 100% say hold the summer boys back. You know who’s in the top math class? Those boys. Girls should stay where they naturally go, I think holding spring kids back is crazy. But I have 3 friends who didn’t hold back their summer boys and they all regret it. [/quote]

Not true, my young for the grade child is taking Algebra in 6th.  No regrets.  Smart kids do the top math classes.  Older doesn't make them smarter.[/quote]

Anyone looking for advice needs to ignore people like the PP who defines kids as "smart" and not smart. First, intelligence does not always equate to doing well in in school. Academic success often depends on confidence, maturity, and social/emotional development. I posted earlier in the thread, but I have a very math inclined late summer birthday boy whose immaturity and executive function issues did not become apparent until middle school. To the extent you can tell these things at ages 4 or 5, factor into any redshirt decision whether your kid is intrinsically motivated, determined, and has age appropriate executive function skills.

I have three kids with summer birthdays, none of which were held back. Two are boys, and while both probably could have benefitted from an extra year from a social perspective, I only have regrets for of them. Looking back, with his personality, an extra year would have been extremely helpful in the middle school years, when we had to exert tremendous effort toward maintaining his mental health and interest in school. These years were extremely difficult, and if not for the time and resources we were fortunate enough to have, my young immature son with a somewhat difficult personality (stubborn, risk adverse, intense, challenging) would have become a high school slacker who checked out completely because he felt stupid and worthless.  The middle school years can be very difficult for less mature kids, even kids who are capable of doing above-grade level school work.[/quote]

+1 on the immaturity and poor executive functioning skills or readiness. It really builds as homework starts, and subject matter builds on itself.

We had a girl with these issues so stacked versus less immature girls, it was more pronounced.  Unclear if a year holdback would have changed anything. There are goofballs and mature kids in the grade below as well. [/quote]

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