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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'd approach it like the babysitter approached you - provide the details of a handful of the most recent, most egregious incidents and tell her that you think you need to take a break or change the supervision dynamics or whatever.

I am SO, SO grateful that my friends have had candid conversations with me about my kids' behavior, when warranted. It has helped me parent better and equipped me with information that I needed but didn't already have. I am surprised at the number of people saying that parents don't want to hear negative things about their kids - I consider that information invaluable and it has helped me help my kids develop the skills they need to be in the world. [/quote]

Absolutely true!  It only helps the child, in the long run, for the parent to be honest.  Some parents aren't equipped (even with the tools) and it is unfair and wrong to subject OP (and the kids!!) to this.  If OP wanted to birth more children, she would have.  OP, it sounds like you are being too nice, or have a laid back attitude, so the other mom might assume (or hope - wrongly) that her child's behavior is not an issue, and/or simply taking advantage, because she can.  The other mom simply should not do this to him - it is robbing her child of what he needs.  Please do not enable this. I have seen the denial so many times.

I know of a situation where the mom literally watched it happen (kid was hitting and being violent) and did nothing, and that was the last straw for the other family. Please don't let it get to this. It's not okay. [/quote]

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