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Are you sooo radical PC that you will ignore the facts? Maybe you should spend your energy trying to educate black men rather than deny that they tend to have a higher hiv rate than anyone on the planet. [/quote]

No one is denying that black men have higher rates of HIV.  No one is denying that this is a crisis and a tragedy.  But it's not a tragedy because it has the potential to effect your white affluent daughter, it's a tragedy because it is effecting black men who are, despite what some people seem to believe, are just as valuable and worthy of our protection.

Let's assume you tell your daughter to avoid having sex with black men.  There's an unspoken message in that that somehow having unprotected sex with white men is not so bad.  Your daughter continues in that behavior, happens to have sex with a white man with HIV and contracts the virus.

Instead, let's say you tell your daughter that unprotected sex is risky.  You give her tools to protect herself regardless of the race of her partner.  You teach her to wait until she's a point in a relationship that she can have an honest conversation, and find out if her partner has tested/encourage him to test.  You teach her to use a condom.  You teach her to be strong and confident so that she can advocate for herself, and insist on her partner using that condom.  Your daugther is dating a man, whatever race, who has HIV.  Maybe what you taught her leads to him getting tested, which has benefits for both.  Maybe he doesn't get tested but he uses a condom.  Benefits for both.  Either way your child is safe, and so is her partner.  Plus she has the benefit of a relationship with the person she chose out of love, not out of fear.[/quote]

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