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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All I can say is bonding intimacy is real[/quote]

Yes. Best sex of our lives.  Hysterical bonding post-affair is real.  It hasn’t let up in 10 months. It’s like we are 25 again and can’t get enough of each other.  Sometimes more than once a day.  Much more intimate outside of the bedroom too.  [/quote]

I don't understand.  Don't you feel pathetic?  How do you convince yourself that he loves you or that he's worth loving?[/quote]

No.  Not at all.  He ended it and did a ton of therapy, still in therapy.  We had a very good 25 years together.  He was totally forthcoming.  He was monogamous for 23 years prior.  That’s a pretty big deal right there.  Not a serial or repeat cheater.  He signed a generous post-nup, got a vasectomy and testing.  It was a long process.  I threw him out of the house initially and refused couples therapy.  He had thorough testing.  He went immediately and again 60 days later. I didn’t touch him during that time.  I wasn’t sure what I was going to do, but every day he showed up with great remorse and transparency and is determined to fight for me and our family.

We have a great family.  He’s a great father and a good husband that made an awful mistake that he’s been paying for and making up for ever since.

I have my own career so I’m not in it for the $.  His was more of the every 6 week, no contact type thing in between. Not a woman he saw frequently and sent constant messages, etc.

I’m not throwing a family/marriage future in the trash and messing up my kids’ lives for a man that shows through his daily actions that he loves us and will do anything.

People shaming women and men for staying are a big problem.  I’m certainly not a victim and don’t really give a sh@t what anyone else thinks.  It’s my life.[/quote]

Aren't you the one whose husband used Ashley Madison and who hacked his iPhone location while he met up with her at lunchtime?  [/quote]

At least she’s stable now.  [/quote]

Well, if it is her, she's a liar, because she's said previously that she was divorcing him.[/quote]

Yeah, but that was clearly what she was going to do. Anything that snuffs out her insanity she’s put out here is good. Plus it’ll be interesting to see how she tries to make up new details when he does it again because his mom/his therapist/his (new) loser AP force him to fail her again. It’s gonna be hard to make up the new details, again. [/quote]

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