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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The fact that you included that you're all feds and have similar incomes is telling. [b]You're not comparing yourself to the truly wealthy, but to what you perceived to be your peers.[/b] Because they're your peers, it stings a bit more, b/c you think you should be doing similarly.

In my social group (all in the same industry) we have people who bought much earlier than others. Also people who had kids easily and those who struggled to conceive. We bought the cheapest house, by far, of anyone in the group. We had our reasons and we're happy with our decision overall, but there're times when I feel twinges of envy, usually short lived, as I remind myself what we do have and that we should be grateful for it.

You chose to fund your kids' college funds instead of putting the money into the house. Ask yourself, would you trade for a bigger house but with less money for your kids? No you wouldn't. So you're investing in their future and should be proud of that.[/quote]

This. Almost everyone does this--comparing themselves to their peers. I have to remind myself that someone else may envy me while I waste time envying someone else. So I just try to be grateful for what I have. 
American society does not celebrate this sort of thinking bc we have a mentality that we always need to size up and have the best and shiniest. Just work on it a bit OP.  It takes practice. [/quote]

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