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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) Don’t assume you’re still very fertile and that conceiving will be quick. 40 is a game changer for fertility.

2) I’d worry less about your age and more about the age of your other kids / family dynamic. There’s a blissful sweet spot when your kids are all able to travel or enjoy activities together without diapers and tantrums. It’s so nice. [/quote]

This.  And why do you feel the need to give your third a sibling (more than he/she already has)?  No idea of age gaps of your kids, but you said your third kid is 4, so kid will be 5 by the time the baby is born.  That's a pretty big age gap.  It wil be years before they can play together and even then odds of them playing together a lot are pretty low due to age gap.  Your 4th will a caboose child with no siblings close in age and sort of holding the family back (diapers, naps) when everyone else is wanting to out doing stuff.  [/quote]

This is a very good point. Such a big age gap will limit what your family can do. I want to take my older kids skiing because they are 7 and 5; however, I have a 2 year old... so we either split the family or we give up on skiing for 2 years[/quote]

Kids do not care about having a younger sibling and a 5 yr gap will keep them pretty far apart. The age gap between your youngest and any potential sibling is too large. All my friends who decided to have another kid with the youngest being 5+ yrs younger always sound miserable. They are constantly complaining/mentioning how they can't do x, y and z because of the youngest one or if they do a family activity geared towards the older kids they have to get a sitter for the youngest or one parents has to stay behind. Totally ruins the family dynamic and ability to do much as a family. But some people don't mind that. Really depends on the type of life you want.[/quote]

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