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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For me, [b]it's not about the nails or hair, it's about grownup expenses[/b]. Now is the time for teenagers to learn how to do their own nails and hair however they want, but not to pay others a huge amount of money in the DC metro to do it for them. I pay for haircuts (whatever they want) and once they start making their own money, they can decide whether they want to spend it on salon highlights or salon nails or something else. I'm trying to save for college. Not keep salons in business.[/quote] A 'grown up expense' is a mortgage or health insurance. Nail and hair are discretionary at any age.[/quote] Nope. Kids and others can get addicted to looking a certain way, and almost be unable to stop if they can't learn how to do it themselves. I have family members in this situation--they will try to beg me for money because they don't have enough to buy gas or pay for food, but they have plenty of money for nails and tattoos. I don't give them money, because they can learn to do their own nails just like I did in high school. It's a great skill to have when your financial situation may change. Teaching my girls how to do what they want to do to their own appearance, so that when they start earning their own money they can decide for themselves what to spend it on. With the exception of haircuts, which takes more skill. [b]Most men aren't locked into this sort of expense cycle. [/b] It doesn't make any sense to lock my girls into it either. Never forget when I went to college, and my friends from the DC metro were amazed I could do my own manicure and paint my nails in record time. I was there on scholarship, so didn't have the money to go to the spa non stop like they did. [/quote] This. If you start this stuff too young, you are more likely to end up being stuck paying for these things, which can get quite expensive. And women already have to pay more, for more of this kind of stuff. No need to start it early. [/quote] I agree. It you start it too early, it's going to be quite a shock to the young adult when they have to start paying for all these services, unless you plan to pay for them for the rest of their lives. I'm fine with however they want to paint their nails and do their hair, they just need to learn how to do it now, while they still have free time to do so. [/quote] While I agree knowing how to do your nails and hair is a good skill to have, the behavior your are describing is disordered. The solution is not to address the symptom - the obsession with getting nails/hair professionally done - but the inability to regulate consumption. Many posters on this thread have indicated their kids pay for their nails/hair color so there will be no surprise about the cost. When they have additional 'grown up expenses' like a mortgage and health insurance and fewer discretionary funds, they can scale back, as any responsible person would. It wouldn't just be the loss or reduction of their nails/hair money but also their Starbucks money, their shoe money, their cosmetics money, their restaurant money, etc. Don't know why you're focused on nails/hair. It's not like nails/hair are a 'gateway' to unbridled, uncontrolled indulgence. [/quote]
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