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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is the exact abuse going on. Is it physical or strictly verbal ? Physical no question confront him. Verbally is more vague. I think many will agree the travel soccer culture tends to have more soft parent protected players than almost any other sport. Parents are more well off in general and the children dont experience as much adversity as others. Therefore the sheltered snowflake model is born. Dont get me wrong I think everyone would love to raise their children in such a safe environment. The drawback is when they are faced with strong adversity their world is destroyed. [/quote]

This is total crap.  Coaches don't make great players, players make great players.  Listen to Pulisic's dad talk sometime.  The reason his son became an elite player was his own drive to make himself a better player, practicing for hours outside alone.  The best players all have this in common, they work on it on their own. Not they had some jerk coach screaming in their face that they suck when they were 10 years old.

Kids can face adversity many ways without being put down by a coach at age 10 FFS.  This is EXACTLY the problem with youth sports.  It is a SPORT, for 95% of them they won't play it in college, it is for FUN. [/quote]

The problem is travel soccer is an insulated sport almost where kids are treated with kid gloves. Youth sports aren't like that across the board. When kids are babied all the time they grow up with thin skin. My guess is this kid has never even been in as much as a fist fight with another kid. Im sure even when he does suck and loses a game he gets the praise of a winner from mommy never learning from the loss.[/quote]

Huh. Not wanting a coach to curse at or verbally abuse his 10 year old players is over protective?  I don’t get that logic. I am in the category of hitting back is fine and punching a bully acceptable. And, yes my kid for better or worse had been in fist fights by age 10. BUT... nope, not keeping him on a team where a coach curses at him or others. I want him to learn to ‘punch up.’ Yes defend yourself; no do not pick on or hurt people who are for lack of a better word weaker. This coach is cursing at kids. That is weak and not something you want kids to copy.  Now... if the issue was playing time, strict coaching, not getting  a preferred position, not using gentle terms, etc then yes the kid should tough it out. [/quote]

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