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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] husband and I went out of town for 2 nites for other child sport event.. Left our 6 year old home with our 16 year old. Have neighbor and nanny “on stand by” if they need anything.
  Usually my parents fly in but with Covid all relatives out.
 16 year old asked if he could have his 2 friends over after he puts 6 year old to bed. Great kids. Only wants them to come over for couple hours.
   We said no. 
  We also wouldn’t leave them alone again even though we live in safe area etc.
 What age would u leave 16 year old with 6 year old- snd would you allow friends?
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When I was 16, I wouldn't ask.  The fact that he asked tis a pretty strong sign they weren't going to get up to anything.  But this is DCUM, where trusting your children is forbidden. [/quote]

Valid points (which I made to my dad when I was 16 and asking for the same thing—just wanted to have a couple of friends over for pizza and a movie while they were gone overnight). He immediately acknowledged that he admired my asking and it confirmed what he already knew—that I was a good kid with good intentions who was trustworthy.

But he still said “no” and here’s why:
1–your friends parents send their kids to
our house, they trust us to provide a safe and supervised environment and I don’t want to violate that trust 
2–if it gets out that you’re having a gathering at your house that is unsupervised, the situation can easily become out of control by the decisions of others, even if you don’t plan to do anything but eat pizza and watch a movie. If a friend or other classmate decides that’s the time to show up with beer and get drunk and drive home, it puts you in a terrible situation and we are saying “no” so you don’t have to.[/quote]

I agree with this.  First, kids in groups often make dumber decisions than an individual kid would make.  And, second, if it gets out that your kid is home alone, other people might make choices that can cause the situation to quickly spiral out of control.  [/quote]

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