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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's good for kids to lose sometimes, OP. It's a learning experience. Your DD will lose out on job offers. There will always be someone who is smarter, richer, quicker, and gets your spot on the starting team. Sometimes you can try your hardest and still get beat by someone who is better at it (whatever it is).

Look at this as an opportunity for your DD to learn the valuable life lesson that she is not good at everything. You don't have to tell her that, she knows now. Learning this life lesson will make her a more humble, realistic woman. We show people who we are when we lose, not when we win.[/quote]

I hate that this generation of parents micromanage and become hyper-involved in all aspects of DC's lives, from socially engineering to college prep.

Just stop. Let your children figure out and navigate hurt, pain, disappointment and life in general.

I was involved in a popular, competitive club sport at my FCPS HS decades ago. My parents'  involvement was limited to a meet the coaches night, coming to games, maybe dropping me off at a fundraising event, but that's absolutely it.

I trained hard to make the team as a freshman and was cut right away. I was devasted, embarrassed and upset...as a normal insecure and awkward teen would be, but I just worked my tail off to improve my fitness and enhance my skills. I was rewarded the following season with a spot. Truly taught myself the value of determination and practice and something that I still think about today; that I have an incredible drive and strong work ethic.

Now I'm the parent of 3. I have always made them advocate for themselves - emailing teachers, for example, or talking to the coach. I have never had to get involved at this level. My 3 have endured their share of disappointments, failures, not making a team, not playing as often as they'd like...but life moves on and I'd like to think I've instilled some realism and coping mechanisms. [/quote]

None of that is comparable to losing a spot because another parent purchased it for their child. At a public school, I would absolutely step in if a coach was accepting donations for spots on a team[/quote]

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