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[quote=Anonymous]I am the spouse of a recovering alcoholic. We have been married 21 years, (now in our early 60's) he has been sober the last 10 years. AA has been a marriage saver and a marriage destroyer. 10 yrs ago when he got sober it was meetings 7 days a week, and I supported him. After about 6 or 7 months he would go 2 or 3 times a week and then go to lunch with 2 men he developed a close friendship with from AA. We would socialize with the spouses all together, As well as our non-AA friends. This was when we lived in OH. In OH the men stuck with the men and the ladies stuck with the ladies at AA meetings.

We moved to FL 2 1/2 yrs ago and everything changed. I have never met any of his AA friends, and he has no friends outside of the AA. I have female friends and we have 1 couple friend together. I understand with COVID socializing has been diminished, however, he is going to AA meetings 3X a week in-person and 2 to 3X a week on Zoom. The men and ladies stay after the meetings and socialize together, they exchange phone#, text each other and this closeness he appears to have with the females is not good for our marriage. Yes, I have always trusted him because we have always shared our lives. I know he shares way more with the FL AA females, (because they can relate) than he does with me about his struggles and recovery. I read a text from a female AA member, it was innocent at the start, female "Can you please send my your address so that I can add it to the 7th Tradition Statement for the Noon Zoom meeting?" My H sends her the PO Box he uses for Business. female "Thanks." My H texts back, "It was really nice to finally meet you in person," ( when I asked about this he said they had met at the bank to switch to him all banking a few weeks ago because he is now the AA Treasure. Female "It was nice to finally meet you as well and look forward to seeing you again soon."  Am I wrong, I think this is inappropriate?

Florida AA has become my spouse's life. He sees no problem with the text exchanges he has with these women. My husband is handsome, very successful, drives a Ferrari, and respects women. Not all, but a large majority of women in FL are 60 but look 40, or 40 and look like 30, (Thanks to some great plastic surgeons LOL), divorced, and looking for their next "sugar daddy."

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. [/quote]

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