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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A family just moved in down the street with a daughter the same age (4) as DD.
I met the mom and we traded #s, and I texted her this week to set up a playdate. I suggested meeting at a park near our house but they suggested meeting in their yard. It was hard to land on a time.
We settled on "around 1pm." At 1:10, after DD had changed her pants 100 times, I said, "On our way!" We walked the 60 seconds over to their house. The other girl ignored DD and it was very awkward. Then she went inside after 5 minutes and we were left kind of standing there. The mom did not try to go back in and cajole her out.
She said, oh sorry, she was thrown because you were 10 minutes late and really likes a schedule...We ended up staying talking to the mom for a bit and then left.

Now I feel really weird and bad??!?!? Did we do something wrong? Should I reach out again? In my mind, "around 1" in preschool time is within 15 or so minutes and it's tough to get kids out the door?  :shock: 
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Why did you let your kid "change her pants 100 times"? My kid knows that we respect others' time and keep our plans. After one pant change, we'd be out the door. [/quote]

Because kids are weird? If we are OK with a 4 year old being a stickler for time, then we should be ok with one who needs to change pants.[/quote]

Maybe your kid is "weird," but my kid may want to change clothes a lot and we are supposed to be out the door to honor plans, I step in and do this thing called "parenting." I would say, "one different pick, and then we are leaving." It's almost as if its me, and not a 4yo, who runs the show. [/quote]

Some people run their homes like dictatorships and some don't. Different strokes.[/quote]

I feel like "around 1pm" for a neighbor is totally fluid!! It's not like you were meeting up at a movie or something with a start time! It's a neighborhood playdate!

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Exactly. This was a casual play date at a neighbor's house. If they are that rigid and inflexible then it's not a match in personalities. This isn't a hill to die on regarding how many times your kid can change plans to make sure you're not a minute late. And if it's not the pants it would be something else like a last minute potty trip, a spilled drink, a knot in shoelaces, etc. It's always something it seems.[/quote]

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