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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I knew from the moment I read in your post that you agreed to meet “around 1pm” that this wasn’t going to go well. That’s a bizarre way to plan a play date, I think. My daughter would have also had trouble waiting 10 minutes for a friend to come over. That’s an eternity for 4 year olds. I think that was poor planning on the part of the moms.

Also it sounds like you’re blaming the other mom for not making her child come back outside, but you didn’t make your child stop changing clothes before she had gone through 100 outfits because “it’s hard to get out the door with preschoolers”?

It sounds like your family and the neighbor family might be incompatible. But I don’t think the neighbor did anything wrong. [/quote]

Your 4 year old tracks what time it is, to the point where she would know the kid was 10 minutes late? [/quote]

Oh come on, the mom made sure kid was outside at 1pm by pumping her up for the play date “we need to put on shoes and get your ball because new friend is coming over!” Kid got excited and then disappointed by the wait and maybe hurt feelings a bit. Normal! No big deal! The moms chatted, they’ll try again later. You guys can’t put this much pressure on a play date especially when it’s right down the street! No harm done. [/quote]
I actually agree with both of these posters. I have twins. One has special needs and the other doesn’t. My SN child made every play date difficult. There was some issue or another for her every.single.time. It was frustrating and embarrassing and I felt like her twin suffered from never having a normal play date, without at least a few minutes of minor drama. It wasn’t until she was 10 years old that my dd was diagnosed with very HFA. Most people just find her quirky, but would never guess she has autism.

Obviously, I’m not jumping to the conclusion that your 4yo neighbor has any SN — my point is simply that her mother knows her best, and if she didn’t bring her child back outside, it’s because she knew things would go downhill. Trust her judgment. It doesn’t sound like the mom was mad or anything, but she’s giving you gentle guidance on how to make future play dates go more smoothly.[/quote]

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