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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm trying to square two things you've said: DH could be back in your house at any time and that he is so unstable that he can't be alone with the kids. How do these work together? If he moved back in this weekend, would your kids be safe?[/quote]

He and I had an agreement, worked out with professionals, for things I needed to feel safe.  If he's willing to follow the agreement, then I'm happy to have him home.  He'll still need to be supervised with the kids, but I can be the supervision.  [/quote]

So you are going to watch him 100% of the time?  What about when you are sleeping?[/quote]

One of the things about depression is that he sleeps a lot.  I sleep when he's asleep and since we share a bed, I'd know if he got up.

I have to live with the fact that whether he's with me, or he's with his parents, if he chooses to harm himself I can't prevent that. He's not admitting to suicidal ideation, so I can't force him to go inpatient.

What I can do, is make sure that if something happens, my kids aren't in the position of seeing it, or feeling like maybe they could have somehow prevented it.  I can also make it harder for him to do something in a sudden moment of impulsivity.  I don't watch him every minute, but if I or another trusted adult isn't close by, then the kids aren't with him.  So, maybe he's taking a nap, and they're playing outside.  Or maybe they're watching a movie together in the family room, and I'm working at the kitchen table.  [/quote]

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