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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MIL is really elusive about how much help she received - she had a difficult personality, so what I gleaned from her is that she had "help with the children's laundry" when they were born (I would have gladly taken that!!).

Having had many kids in few years, MIL was very overwhelmed, checked out, depressed and anxiety ridden.   Not just unsupportive, but plain mean - saying things like "I'm here to see him not you!" while I was literally in the middle of feeding my newborn, nursing my baby (I'm supposed to leave my house and not feed my newborn??).  She visited twice per year, even though she lived down the street. I don't know if she was so mean because she was treated badly in her life (she was), because she was treated badly by the other military wives (she was), or because she was ignored in her marriage (she was).

She had a lot of chips on her shoulder, so it is hard to know if it was her personality disorders, or being a military wife, that caused them. FIL was not around much, and was not present for most of MILs births. I think both of them were very selfish and difficult people.

[b]I think MIL had a really lonely life, in spite of living on base.  I think it is what you make it, what you sign up for, OP. You are a good friend. [/b][/quote]
I think you might be on the wrong thread?[/quote]

Thanks!  You are so kind!  I was describing an experience I am familiar with - you don't have to like it or agree with it.  Sounds like I hit home for you. [/quote]

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