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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d run it by a friend first maybe. I knew someone who did this (and earnestly thought he was confronting about mistreatment) [b] but the content was “all my friends  got to go to Europe but you never took me to Europe!” And “you shouldn’t have let me quit piano when I wanted and if I had kept playing I’d be great now!” [/b]

Don’t send one like that! [/quote]

Those complaints might sound stupid, but they tend to point to something bigger. Likely, checked out parents.[/quote]

Eh, it likely points to a young adult during the height of the navel gazing phase - write the letter if you must, DON’T ever send it, look back on it in 10-15 years (preferably when you’ve had many years of parenting your own kids under your belt), cringe, and then burn it. [/quote]

Based on your attitude, I would just keep you at arm’s length or cut ties.[/quote]

Well, I speak from experience as the child who went through a phase of judging my parents incredibly harshly and wanting to blame them for everything - then I grew up.  Sure they’re not perfect, but they were doing the best they could. [/quote]

Same. My big complaints were that my mom never pushed me enough academically. I had good grades but really didn’t try and was very made when applying to law school that I hadn’t gone to a better undergrad. I didn’t realize how well I could do if i just applied myself until high school. BUT it’s also true there was a lot of other stuff going on at home that contributed to this. My mom was single and dating a married man and that kind of messed with me too. [/quote]

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