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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I don't give people parenting advice, especially not to my sister (or my mom!). I never tell anyone what to do with their kids or advocate for any particular parenting style. I'm talking more about when I say stuff like "Oh yeah, transition to Kindergarten was tough for Larla -- I was surprised how much moving to a different school building impacted her" and then I get a litany of advice I didn't ask for and my sister saying things like "well you don't understand this because she's your first, but..." It's so condescending and, I feel, unmerited. It feels like I never get to just be a mom, I always have to be the "new mom" so that the other women in my family can feel like experts.

I'm glad (though also sad) to hear this might be something specific to my family. I keep thinking I need to find some friends who are also moms of onlies because I think it would help, but I don't know that many. People also seem to assume that the reason we only had one was because of infertility and while I'm sure that happens and is challenging, it isn't the case for us. Anyway, thanks for your insight PPs.[/quote]

I'm curious what your sister actually said when you told her about your daughter's kindergarten experience?
It definitely does sound like an element is your sister and mom just being annoying. It sounds like you have a different lifestyle from them, and they just like to criticize you in general? Often parents of onlies are different in other ways besides just the fact that they only have one child.
Also, even if you had multiple children, it sounds like your sister and mom could always invalidate you based on the age of your oldest. Like, you could have 5 children, but if they're not in college yet and your sister's oldest is in college, you'll get a "just you wait...."[/quote]

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