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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is cultural. To be honest, I am often truly aghast at some of the stories my Asian friends have shared with me about what their moms think is acceptable to say to them. From comments about gaining weight to needing plastic surgery to their (decent) grades not being good enough to their college or career not being prestigious enough, husbands not earning enough money, etc. It seems so cold and mean to me.

I can’t imagine saying stuff like that to anyone let alone a vulnerable child who believes in you wholly.[/quote]

My 8 yo daughter has a bit of a rounded tummy still. It would kill her self esteem and confidence if I ever even hinted that she needed to lose weight.

But I have East Asian and Indian friends who say this was completely normal among their mothers’ and grandmothers’ generations. Seems really detrimental.[/quote]

Why is your child so fragile that it would kill her self esteem and confidence?  Why would you shield your child from the knowledge that she needs to lose weight, if she does?

Btw, your child doesn't go to the grocery store on her own. [/quote]

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