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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'll be the voice of disset. A 15 yr old doesn't see the long term impacts of his decisions.

When my DC was younger, I pushed DC to do some things that I thought would be good for DC. DC hated it, but  deep down, DC knew that I was right. So, DC did what I pushed DC to do.  Years later, this activity helped DC, and DC realizes it and is grateful that I pushed DC.  DC is now 15.

I don't know your kid's situation, but sometimes, in some things, it is worth pushing your kid.

Frame it this way.. no matter what happens, we are not pulling you out of private for xyz reason. Are you really going to give this up to spite us when in the long run this activity is for you?

Also, if he gives up soccer, what activity will he do? I always tell my kids they have to do something - a sport, after school activity, something. So, what will he do?

I would not take away the phone for this. But, make it clear that he has to do something.  Give that choice to him.[/quote]

Unless he's on the road to D1 scholarships and/or a path to FIFA, he's not giving up anything but his parents' dreams. And, FTR, MOST kids are not on those paths.

I'm not saying to encourage him and/or make clear, he's staying so he may as well do the best of it. And to tell him that he may be cutting of his nose (something he likes) to spite his face (you). But at the end, you cannot force him. I mean, what? He goes to the tryouts and tanks it. Then what? You punish him?

You've had your win. He's in school and doing well. Take that and be grateful for it. But make clear that some physical activity is required for his health. [/quote]

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