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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I have different parenting styles. Our son is a little over 8 weeks old and my husband has been pushing to get him on a schedule. I’m all for schedules but I think he is too young. I’m doing on-demand at this point and following his cues. I feel like it’s going well but naps are becoming a challenge. He is having issues with fighting naps in the afternoon and staying asleep for more than 30-45 minutes unless he’s held. My husband thinks putting him on a schedule will help solve it. I think it’s developmentally normal and not much we can do about it until he’s older and we can sleep train. I want to be respectful of his views and opinions, but I also want to do what I feel is best for the baby. I’m not really sure how to navigate difference in opinions on parental philosophies and who decides what to do? [/quote]

At 8 weeks, on demand is fine. He is too young to schedule.  The child will get into a routine by 3 months (and more wakeful and active too so scheduling becomes more important for your sanity than the child's well-being).

I, erm, made excel spreadsheets of my first child's schedule.  I tried for my second child, but #2 had to nap on the fly because #1's pickup and dropoffs were unavoidable.  They are teenagers now, the lack of a rigid schedule for the latter hasn't affected his admirable academic performance.  He even potty trained way early but I would credit that to a desire to imitate the older child.

Here's what a friend with 3 young kids told me at the time - 
There are 3 things you can't control about kids, eating, sleeping and pooping.  So just roll with it and you won't feel so stressed out.
Some kids need more sleep, other kids catnap.  Kids are people too.  Can you imagine somebody expecting you to fall asleep when you aren't sleepy?

(When it comes to the eating part, I do have to say that when you allow the child to pick out their own fruits and vegetables, it tastes all the more delicious than any YOU could pick out.)[/quote]

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