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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PPs, the OP wrote a defensive and not very nice post that basically categorized women who chose natural birth as doing it for bizarre reasons (turning down pain just to do so) as well as doing it "for a reason to feel superior." Her post, in itself, was judgmental and misguided. You can hardly blame people who have responded passionately in defense of their own choice.

Im the PP who said I never, ever bring up my drug free childbirth. It was a personal choice to me, much like what type of hiking boots I buy - I want support that's right for MY foot, but I'm not going to pretend I know what's best for yours. I might share my preferences and reasoning if you ASK me, but I'm not going to presume we have the same objectives or priorities. What I *am* giong to do, is defend my choices when they come under attack, and I'm going to tell women who seem confused about what goes into the choice, or who draw incorrect conclusions about why I made the choice (like OP and many of you) what I know about it and why I chose it.

I wonder how many of you would start off saying "those natural childbirth people are just out to prove something" and then feel offended when I tell you how wonderful my birth actually was? I don't feel sad for anyone else, as long as they are at peace with their birth and feel their children are healthy.

Some other natural birthing supporters have the zeal of the newly converted, and I can understand how that is grating. When I first had my kid, I wanted to shout from the mountain tops that I'd had a baby, and that it was nothing like the way childbirth is depicted in books, TV, and even from other parents. I quickly learned that when you do that, other people can feel judged. But I wasn't TRYING to judge them. I felt like nobody told ME that it wasn't as hard as it seemed on TV, and I wanted to get the good word out. But, like religion, it's just one of those things that only a few people want to hear about.

I try to reserve my comments for those people, but I admit to being goaded into responding to posts like the OP's, which seem to cast all of us med-free birthing mamas in the "uncontrolled, crazy scheming" and "eschewing modern medicine" and "have something to prove / wanna be a hero" camp. I think many of these people are dismissing something [b]they did not have the courage to try[/b], or they are confusing a failed epidural with natural childirtth [b]as if it that is the same thing (it's not!)[/b] or like it gives them some authority to discuss my choice as if they understand it. I'm going to [b]continue to call those people out[/b], and correct them where I see fit. [b]That doesn't mean I am judging someone else for their epidural. Trust me[/b].

Uh, really?  You sound pretty judgmental to me.

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