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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do think it is sad that this is he ONLY criteria you asked about.

And the fact that you were apologetic about your kid's 4.8 GPA

I honestly feel sorry for him. Talk about pressure. From within the 4 walls of his house.

I suggest you figure out WHAT  HE  NEEDS, not what YOU  WANT. [/quote]

Goodness. Stop this nonsense. Feel sorry for people who need it.[/quote]

Like the many teenagers who kill themselves every year?

Have you not heard about the mental health crisis going on in our country?

So yes, I think this poster's child is very deserving of sympathy. It sounds like he is growing up in an unhealthy environment, in which his worth (and he may think his parents' love) are conditional upon external indicators.

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OP here.  Have you never met a young person who had a big dream and was working hard to achieve it?   My child knows [u]every[/u] day that he is loved for who he is.  He feels supported.  It's why he has come to us to ask for advice.  What advice would you give to such a child?  Would you say "better give up those dreams, kid, because you're just not going to make it?"  No, you'd help him gather information and navigate a course.  The "external indicators" I gave you are those that colleges look for.  I don't need to explain who he is in any more detail to you.

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I believe you. I guess I would work with him to understand that there are many roads to Rome. So, choose an impact you want to have on the world, or a career field you hope to enter. Help him realize that very few paths are truly closed to kids who attend other than top colleges. I think it would be healthier and safer for this dream to be the end goal, not the ranking of the school he attends to get there.

So, I am happy for him that you are supportive parents. That has probably helped him do well and dream big. But if possible, perhaps tie his dreams to what he  hopes to achieve in the world--which will be dictated by a multitude of factors other than the USNWR ranking of his college.

(And at some point in everyone's life, they have to come up with a Plan B. That is not tragic, it is a life skill. I agree, that you do not want to say "We don't think you can accomplish your goal." But you can help him think about the big picture, and that college is a means to an end. Not the end in itself.)[/quote]

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