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[quote=Anonymous]I have a score of 5, I didn't know about this test. I grew up wealthy though, which feels like a pillow around all the trauma. I've never wanted for anything financially, which I think makes a really big difference in being able to recover? I'm not sure, I'm not sure I feel like I earned a score of 5. But I have had a lot of trauma, alcoholic parent who was frequently out of control and who eventually died, a sibling who died, mentally ill and emotionally abusive other parent, acrimonious divorce.

I feel like I deal with it by being grateful for what I did have that others didn't. The financial stability, the fact that I managed to marry someone really great who loves me a lot despite it all. Having healthy kids. I focus on all of that. I have also put very strong boundaries in place with my family to protect myself. They are still a source of stress and anxiety but it is more compartmentalized, I moved far away. And I have accepted that there is no shangri la of life. There will always be things that are hard that are happening, COVID, health issues, they are always going to be there, and they're happening to the happy well adjusted people too. They feel hard for me because it feels like there was never a time when life wasn't hard, but I have learned how to focus on what is good.

But I feel nothing but empathy reading the stories here about the hits that kept on coming. I think I would have had a very hard time dealing with a disabled child or a disability myself. [/quote]

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