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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yikes. I was married to someone like you, OP - we *could* afford the things that were important to me, but he didn’t see the value in them and either said no or argued with me every step of the way. It ended in divorce.

Her values and wants are just as important as yours. If you can afford it and it makes her happy, let it go. Work with her to help her vision come true. If you always place your priorities above hers, it’s not going to end well for you. [/quote]

OP here. She gets everything she wants. I never tell her she can’t get anything she wants. This is really the only time. We found two condos we liked and we went with her choice. I was happy with both but she wanted this one because it had an elevator. I didn’t care about the carpet she did. I didn’t mind the gray paint but she wanted a lighter gray so we painted. She is changing this condo to the other one. Same hardware, same light fixtures, and same backsplash. We could have gone with the other one instead of doing all of this. [/quote]

Team Wife. She sounds smart. With a baby on the way, of course you get the condo with an elevator and then adjust it to look the way you want.

You sound very controlling. I can understand if you can’t afford it, or if you want a different backsplash, but you’re just nitpicking. A nice home that is exactly the way you want it a joy to live in. You need to figure out why you think you are right all the time, and why you have trouble seeing things from others’ perspectives. Otherwise co-parenting is going to be very difficult for you.

In 20 years, do you want to look back on this time and feel resentment about the backsplash, or remember the joy you felt building your first home and having your first child together? Your time as a family goes by SO fast. You’re going to blink and that baby will be leaving for college. Don’t make this a contentious time. [/quote]

Another for Team Wife! I can't even imagine having stairs with a new baby and stroller. And let her do that backsplash for crying out loud, it's not a gut job. You have the money. This is not major work. You are very controlling. [/quote]

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