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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OK, I seriously need some advice.  Divorced now well over a year and separated 2 years before that.  Wife has the children (two daughters, ages 8 and 10) out of state. (I was an idiot for letting that happen)...anyway, lately she has convinced them that I beat them.  To be very clear, I have never even spanked my children.  Was always an extremely active father and had such a good relationship with my girls. (neighbors even say that I'm the only one they ever say out playing with my daughters).  On the phone my daughters are making statements about how I hit them.  It's beyond painful.  .....my ex made this allegation almost two years ago and the state investigated everything an entire summer, the entire time of which I could not communicate with my girls.  They came back saying there is absolutely no evidence that I ever hit them...now, two years later my girls are stating the same thing and I'm terrified.  I get them every month and my next time with them is coming up shortly.  I'm sure that when it comes time for me to get my girls, they will cry and refuse to get into my car.  I don't want to traumatize them, but I'm also worried that if I don't insist of taking them, that they will draw further away from me and be even more brainwashed that I have done such things to them.
Does anybody have any experience with child psychology and how I should proceed?  Do I make things easy for them and just give them more time...or do I take them?  
I hope this doesn't sound like I'm rambling.....any advice would be greatly appreciated.[/quote]

I hope you have some financial resources.

I'd get a lawyer that specializes in parental alienation and go scorched earth against your ex.

I would absolutely not give up your time and strongly advise you get this lawyer in place prior to their visit to figure out the best way to handle things.

You can either do this or resign yourself to losing your kids. You may lose them at the end of the process, but at least you will have fought.

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