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OP - I am interested in hearing why the court did not have the expectation that your ex would be going to get a job in the settlement.

As mentioned I would find a way to have one of your siblings or a grandparent come for visit with you to see your daughters.  Rent a nearly B & B and take the safety precautions.  See if you could find one with a fire pit  to be able to roast marshmellows etc.  Find out from your daughters where they would like to order out?  Try and find some outdoor activities the girls might enjoy in their area - ice skating, skiing with lesson, biking or etc.  A surprise for that age that could be used most any where would be a scooter for each and helmet which you would keep for such visits as EX would likely not let them bring them.

Also when you are in touch make sure that you are doing Face Time as that is just more personal and maybe ask to see something they have been doing in school or if they take or like art, dance or an instrument to see them perform if they want to.  It is a difficult situation and the key is to be low key and not overly force the outcome.  If a relative on your side is not available to come on a monthly visit, try to set it up for  a week away in the summer at the beach and let the girls plan where as at their ages there would be lots to do at most beach areas.  It goes without saying you should not trash talk their mother and on this end, a therapist could help you because if you are not a troll, you will need an outlet to positively vent to and get advice on how best to proceed.[/quote]

If ex is supporting herself, how doesn't matter.  I don't get why if Mom moved, everyone expects Dad to jump and follow.  If he follows, she can still refuse visits.  Likewise, if Mom will not give him the court appointed time, she isn't going to be flexible on other times.

Having been there, done that, he's best to walk away.  He will spend a fortune fighting this and very few courts/judges will hold mom in contempt and give consequences.  If he fights it, Mom will just make the kids lives more miserable as well.[/quote]

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