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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Man here- my wife did a similar trip two years ago to attend a family wedding and then spend a few days with her parents. Our kids were 3, 5 and 8 at the time and I survived...just barely! I had some help during the day because I work full time but it was an important trip for her so I wasn’t going to moan about it. I know at some point post Covid that I will do a solo trip and she will handle it. [/quote]
And so are you looking for brownie points?  A round of applause? Father of the Year award for doing something that women around the world have been doing for thousands of years?

and did your wife sleep in and miss a family event with the kids the day before she was going to leave?  Cause that's what OP's DH did.

There's this male marriage therapist who said that men think they should get like 500points for just rolling out of bed in the morning.  That's what this sounds like.

My husband wanted to go overseas to his cousin's wedding during a time when we were trying to buy a house across the country (in the middle of the process), my project at work was about to go live (which meant I would be working long hours), and with two kids under 5.   We had no family around us. I was super stressed out around this time, and he pulled this sh1t on me.   Yep, I got mad. And the other reason I was mad about this sitution is because he did not want me to quit my job which I wanted to do so that things at home could be less stressful. He liked his expensive lifestyle too much, which I was helping to support (I made 50% of the HHI).

I went to help my sibling who was going through chemo for a week, but ONLY because DH's parents came to visit, so he was taking the week off and he had his parents to help him.  If he had a project going live that week, I would not have even thought to leave him with the kids alone.

IMO, women are more considerate of their partners and think about the family's needs more than men do. And that is why women are resentful.

I don't have a martyer syndrome. I just want a partner who is considerate of me and the kids as much as I try to be considerate of him and his needs and those of our kids.

PS.. DH ended up not going to the wedding, and this cousin got divorced after a year of marriage.

PPS.. We had a come to Jesus moment there, and DH never pulled that kind of sh1t ever again.   Now happily married 15 yrs later, and still bringing home half the income, which will allow us to both retire early, which DH has always wanted to do.  You're welcome, DH.[/quote]

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