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[quote=Anonymous]I have this same gripe, but it's not just with bedtimes.

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It's gotten a bit better lately, but there's definitely a vastly disproportionate share of times when she's supposed to have the kids and I get roped in vs. vice-versa. Or if she says she needs to go into work next weekend for a half-day or something, I say no problem I've got the kids. If I give her a heads up that I need to work on the weekend, it's like "so I'm supposed to have the kids BY MYSELF!?!?"

It's really weird, she's generally a very smart and competent person, she loooooves our kids, but it's like she just has this mental block about functioning (even on a short-term basis) as the sole authority figure. And often gets into struggles of the will with the kids to the point where she's just like "I can't deal with this" and storms off. That happens to me every now and then if a kid is intentionally pushing limits/buttons, but it's like 1/10th as often.

I wouldn't mind so much but I feel like I do more than half of the parenting as it is (I'm the cook in the family, she can make basic things like cereals, eggs, rice but that's about it, I plan and sign up for all their classes and camps and extracurriculars before they get filled, I come up with family trip and weekend activity ideas, and most things like laundry and housecleaning are mostly outsourced), so when I DO need to occasionally request some time to myself, I feel like I really need that to be respected and it's kind of the least she could do.

She does more often take them to their classes/lessons, but to me that's "fun stuff" and I'd gladly take more of that on if I could offload some of the rest of the parenting responsibilities. </rant>[/quote]

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