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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]On one hand, I applaud you knowing your limits. On the other hand, is that really what you want to be left with at the end of your life - you could've had another child, but you chose netflix and takeout and general laziness? The intense stage is so short. [/quote]

I find when people react this rudely against other people's choices, it's because they are feeling insecure about their own life choices.[/quote]

Agreed.  Or, you know, I'm choosing my mental and physical health over having a second kid.[/quote]

I didn't mean to be rude! Or, I didn't put much thought into it, because this is dcum? Anyway, I'm just saying, people put energy into all kinds of things that are important to them. I'm really asking, at the end of your life, are you going to be happier you have a second child, or that you go to sit on the couch and watch netflix with takeout for a few extra years? OP said she was low energy, not depressed/mentally ill.[/quote]

Me again. I actually just re-read OP's post. I was focusing on the "netflix and takeout" part and less on the "my husband is going to be away all week part." Yea, OP, having to be a solo parent to an infant and toddler the entire week IS hard, "low energy" or not. If that's your situation, and there's nothing changing it, then yes I would definitely consider not having a second child.[/quote]

Pro tip: if you call a person "lazy" you are being rude. I know, anonymous online comments feel harmless but there are real people reading this and looking for advice. And yes, you still sound insecure.[/quote]

Ugh, I shouldn't follow up on this, but I'm bored. What about my post sounds insecure...? Some things are hard but worth it. Forgoing some netflix and takeout for a few years? I think that's worth it. That's my advice. Having to solo parent two children indefinitely? Probably not worth it, to me, but others could disagree and think that effort is also worth it. I think maybe you're insecure if you're that upset about it? And I dunno, I'm sorry, I don't find "lazy" that bad of a word. I call myself lazy all the time. Especially while watching netflix and eating takeout.[/quote]

I can't even lol[/quote]

It sounds like you are really into netflix and takeout. More power to you.[/quote]

Np here.  You're deliberately being obtuse.  Not a good look.  No one should ever be criticized for their decision to not have more kids or have kids at all.[/quote]

I doubt PP calls her friends "lazy" to their faces, because if she did, they'd think she's a jerk. But since it's online it's okay to be an a-hole? If her "concern" for OP is that she'll get bored, I assure her that there are other ways to occupy ones 's time besides raising children. Or should empty nesters all become foster parents lest they Netflix too much?  JFC.[/quote]
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And she doesn’t sound bright. Insulting someone and then doubling down? Definitely insecure.[/quote]

I just can't imagine being this invested in whether other people have kids.  Why is it any skin off your nose that you feel the need to insult people? [/quote]

Me again! Omg, I don't care whether she has kids or not. Look, let me rephrase: "OP, if you REALLY want a second child, but you're afraid that you won't be able to handle it because you're 'low energy,' don't be afraid - you can do it. (Unless by low-energy you really mean clinically depressed/chronic fatigue, etc.). I myself am a low energy homebody!! And I have 2 kids! Yes, it gets hard, but what I tell myself when it gets hard is, at the end of my life I will be happier with my 2 kids vs. a few extra years of couch time. [b]That is truly what I tell myself and it makes me feel better,[/b] so maybe it will work for you. On the other hand, if your real concern isn't so much leisure time as it is the burden of solo parenting all week, then yes, that does sound very difficult and possibly cause to not have a second child. I know that I would never be happy in that situation." IS THAT BETTER FOR EVERYBODY?[/quote]

So basically you are here to justify your own choices. Thanks for clarifying.[/quote]

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