Reply to What's better, fitting into your neighborhood socially, or loving the location?

Forum Index » Real Estate

Reply to "What's better, fitting into your neighborhood socially, or loving the location?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
   But I know there is another side to this. There are some people who bring the feeling of "home" with them. Like the previous PP who was so happy with her community. Maybe it's really just that she was lucky, but I also get the sense that she's the kind of person who reaches out and enriches the whole neighborhood with her energy and community spirit. I tell myself I should stay here and be like that. But I still would love to have the kind of place that fits us like a glove. I don't know how to describe it, but feel some PPs understand.[/quote]

I get what the OP is saying.  We picked where we live by the commute and schools.  For awhile my kids went to a preschool that was closer to my job than home and I have to say I had a lot more in common with the families.  Not everyone was outgoing but I can't think of a conversation that left me feeling like I had nothing in common.  In fact lots of time we knew people in common, had the same philosophy on kids and didn't need to explain/debate/ defend because we knew where the person was coming from, one person I was convinced led the same life as me, we worked in the same field at many of the same companies at different times.   My neighbors, while people are very nice, there isn't the same connection.  When you start talking the local preschool or elementary school, I think the odds are closer to what a pp mentioned, maybe 1 out of 15 people, would be someone I would follow-up with a play date or get together and then you throw in activities and schedules and it may not ever work out.

But I took the quote from the OP because I agree about the type of person that reaches out.  I'm very guarded.  I am a conversationalist and will try to find common ground with anyone but I don't really let my guard down unless I meet that person that has that generosity of spirit that makes me feel comfortable enough to be real and then I'm willing to help them out, be silly with the kids around them, reach out to make plans and not worry who made contact last or take it personal if they can't make something, share parts of my childhood 
or culture even if it isn't their culture etc.  So to the person that reaches out like that they probably find "home" most places they live.  Now this is me, I imagine young kids aren't as guarded and make friends more easily.  Being involved in an activity like swim team, or church group or scouts etc. would give them a chance to spend time with a small group of kids every week and for you to get to know other families that live close by.  I don't regret my decision to pick commute over neighborhood fit, but I realize I have to work harder for the social aspect .[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics