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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love our neighborhood's quiet streets and convenient physical location (we're renting). But I know there are further-out, less convenient locations where I'd fit in better socially (more alternative, [b]more international[/b], more diverse). I think if my husband and I didn't have kids we would definitely look to buy where we are now, since our social life doesn't have to revolve around our neighborhood. However, I think about my kids and the friends they will make through school.

Is it better to be in a great location and be clinging to the bottom of the social ladder (here we'd be lucky to find something we could afford, and then it'd be a stretch for us), or to be in a neighborhood we can afford without such a stretch and where we might find [b]more like-minded families[/b]. I do want my children to "fit in" and not feel like outcasts. I also am not very patient with them having playdates when I find the other kids spoiled and rude, and I'm finding that here. I know I'll get in trouble for saying that... I guess I'm just not good with kids. But I am sure there must be lower-key families like ours in this neighborhood too, and it could just take time to fit in.

If we stay in the great-location neighborhood, the investment in our home will be more secure.
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so are you trying say you are foreign born?

If so - you will be miserable anywhere you live if you keep fantasizing that in your culture, or your country, everybody does it right (buys the right kind of house, acts the right way, eats the right kind of food) and ends up being perfect parents who have sweet and helpful and non-spolied kids  all the time.

Your country or culture isn't superior - and neither is mine - so get over yourself and realize that everybody gets to make their own decisions on how to live and parent and its  you who has the problem.  You need to learn to accept that people do things differrently and that's ok and that by them just doing it differently and telling you about it does not mean that you have to change they way you live or that you aren't free to tell them  how you prefer to do it.  It also doesn't mean that they are judging you or even really care all that much.  Sure some of them will but the vast majority of people are so wrapped up in their own lives that they are not all that interested in yours as you believe them to be.
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