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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t want to hijack OP’s thread, but I have a DS who is similar.

Example: today we were at the park. There was a homeless man who was acting a bit odd so I was restricting DS to one sector of the park. Ds spent almost the whole time we were at the park trying to get over to the sector where he was not allowed. Literally he’d make a run for that direction, I would grab him and say no, he’d throw himself on the ground and scream. Then repeat. It’s just such a bummer because he completely missed out on getting any exercise or having any fun in our whole outing. He just will not give up. [b]This went on for 90 minutes. 
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Similarly we have a pool outside (we don’t live in DC), and he constantly throws things in it.[b] Each time he throws something in we remove him from the area and put him in time out but then the INSTANT he has access to the pool area again it starts all over.[/b]

[b]The idea of just ignoring the tantrum or walking away has never made sense to me.[/b] If I do that, DD will continue the destructive behavior or move onto something else more destructive. He also engages in self harm behaviors (hitting head and putting things in his mouth), so I literally cannot take eyes off of him for even a moment.

Ds can also reach up onto the counters and constantly grabs everything and smashes it. He’s just so fast and destructive. Our older child wasn’t like this so I don’t know what to do.

You’re not alone, OP. We’ve had developmental evaluations and also an autism evaluation and they don’t think autism, but he does have some developmental and speech delays. [/quote]

PP-I bolded a few things that stood out to me. In the park example, perhaps after it became clear that DS would not stay away from the area you wanted him to, you should have took him and left. Why set him up for failure for 90 minutes?

With the pool-you could remove everything that you are not ok with being tossed in. He really should not have access to the pool area anyways (for water safety) so maybe you should only have pool toys or nothing at all in the area, that he could toss. Or don't let him near the pool.

You've got to outthink him.[/quote]

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