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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what reasons did she give you? You haven’t shared them with us, but just leap-frogged right into “should we break up.” Tell us about the conversation you had and the reasons she gave you for changing her mind about her lease.[/quote]

OP here. She gave reasonable reasons such as it’s very soon and she worries about not having a backup place if we break up. [/quote]

So when she said soon, she was probably thinking a year plus (which is reasonable given your ages). Instead of just outright dumping her, maybe you can talk to her about the timeline she envisions for moving the relationship forward?[/quote]

OP here. I feel like I’m getting mixed signals. She told me she broke up with her ex because he wouldn’t commit. He didn’t want her to move in and then didn’t propose to her after talking about for most of her relationship. I told her that wasn’t me when she asked me if I was serious about her. I told her I was serious and willing to show her I wanted a commitment. She said she wants to be engaged by 1 year because she is 35 and doesn’t have much time before having kids. I told her I was fine with that if our relationship continued going the way it has. She said she was fine moving in last week when we talked about her lease being up. Then I officially asked her last night and she said no.

It feels like she is telling me what I want to hear without  any actions. I believe in showing actions because words are just that.

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