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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our marriage is about a lot more than physical attraction.  It's mutual support and empathy, shared experiences, friendship, comfort, and affection.  We understand and help each other.  He's a good father.  He forgives me when I mess up.  He does nice things for me to make my day easier, and I try to do the same for him.

Do I wish he would lose 40 pounds?  Definitely.  I have tried to communicate that over the last 8 or 9 years?  Yes.  It did not work because the motivation has to come from him.  He exercises now, which is a step in the right direction, but he eats unhealthily.  This has been an unbelievably hard year and it's not the time for me to put added pressure on him about appearances, when I'm not looking my best either.  I will take the lead on helping us both eat better in the new year, but care about him and want to do it without shaming or being condescending.

I am still attracted to his eyes and his smile and his legs and the way he treats me, so I focus on that.[/quote]

Sounds like a good marriage but the 40 lbs extra is a downer.[/quote]

I could have written this. When I need to, I close my eyes and picture the younger, thinner version. [/quote]

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