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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Age 25 and making $80k, no problem. Age 45? Problem. [/quote]

This. When I was young and single, I cared about education and potential more than current income. Now I'm in my 40's and married with kids, but if I was ever single again then lack of high income/wealth would be a deal breaker. Once guys are in their late 30's+, they're typically either successful or they're not going to be.

I made good money, made great investments, and saved a lot. If I was ever single again, then I would only be interested in men who were doing really well financially. I would never consider financing a man's lifestyle because that money would be for me and my kids. Plus I wouldn't be attracted to the type of man who would accept a woman supporting him or a man who wasn't driven to be successful. [b]I would never downgrade my lifestyle to meet a man where he is either. [/b]The man needs to be a high earner or have high net worth to keep up.[/quote]

I don't get this...how would you be forced to downgrade your lifestyle with an average earner?  You would not spend ANY of your own money with your new hypothetical partner for various couples activities, and instead rely on him to pay for EVERYTHING?  Yuck.[/quote]

Now you're inventing things that I never said. I can pay my own way, but the guy needs to be able to pay his own way. I enjoy a second home, luxury vacations, fine dining, etc. I wouldn't be ok with foregoing any of this because a guy couldn't pay for his share. I won't pay for a luxury vacation for him and I won't accept giving up these things that my kids and I enjoy because he can only afford to drive to a camping trip. That's what it means to refuse to downgrade my lifestyle.

You're a hypocrite if you believe that the women you date don't think the same way regarding whatever lifestyle they're accustomed to. None of them would date you if you made $50K. This just seems to upset some men (and some women) who feel that any line where they can't make the uncut is immoral. You're a hypocrite because you made the cut somewhere too and you definitely have your own standards to meet for people you date.

It's all hypothetical for me, but very real for the divorced women I know IRL who are in the same financial situation. I only know one who picked a man who she has to pay for the guy and his kids, and it's a very messed up situation that has created a lot of problems between her and her kids. Plus he begs her to marry him and she won't because she doesn't want to ever have to give him half her assets. I would never get in this kind of situation. But go ahead and tell me that you're morally superior because you and the people you date have absolutely no standards at all.[/quote]

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