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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Serial killer, rapist, 9-11, a Timothy Mcveigh bombing.  Yes I would.

Also, I would disown a child who worked worked for the Trump administration and would divorce DH of he worked for this evil man.

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It’s sad that y[b]our children will never know unconditional love and acceptance[/b]. I despise trump.  Thankfully, my children do as well.  I would not disown them if they supported him.  [/quote]

Question: is there a point at which "unconditional love and acceptance" of a child becomes a crime against someone else?

Is it ethical NOT to disown someone who: raped babies, raped a sibling, murdered someone else's child, committed an act of mass terrorism, etc.?

Does NOT disowning someone who raped babies say something (bad) about your own code of ethics/worth as a human being?  I think it does. [/quote]

It is ethical not to disown them, more ethical than disowning them.  You disown/hate their behavior but recognize every person has the possibility for redemption.    I would love my kid unconditionally even if I hated their behavior/actions.

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NP. I'm thinking of the Duggars. One brother molests his siblings and the parents cover it up and for all intents and purposes, choose the brother over the sisters who were abused. I don't know if I could truly disown my child in my heart, but if it came down to choosing the abuser over the abused (meaning your other child, grandchild, etc.), you have to side with the abused. Thinking about it, this really feels like intra-family sexual abuse where you have loyalty and obligation to everyone involved. The victim really needs to see you genuinely choosing them over their abuser, and even if that abuser is your child, you have the obligation to the person that was hurt in the situation.

Drugs, violent crime, maybe even sexual crimes outside the family... I can see the ethical argument that you still side with the victim, but eh, if that victim isn't my family member, I don't know if I would do that. And drug addictions make you do terrible things, but you can come out the other side. I've seen it in my family and detaching with love is not the same thing as emotionally disowning. [/quote]

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