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[quote=Anonymous]I'm glad that I'm not the only one. My fiance drives me insane with his carelessness and forgetfulness. I never had that be an issue to work with before, so for years I didn't know how to respond to it. It annoyed me so badly and stressed me out, because I can't tell you how many times he would lose our stuff and cost us money. Things like leaving the car unlocked with keys and wallet sitting conveniently on the seat for thieves. Or setting his stuff down just anywhere...including putting our mustang keys in the yard, so we had to pay for a new key...found the old one after the fact. I could go on endlessly. Not to sound harsh, but it really is stressful. I finally realized he must have ADHD. It really helps to look into it and also read other people's stories of being in a relationship with someone with ADHD. Of course also reading how to manage it and everything is very beneficial. I try to not point out everything anymore...you can't control someone's actions and nobody is perfect. Instead I try to laugh about it (if you can find it funny lol it's not my sense of humor), I try proactive things to help diminish the likelihood of forgetfulness, and I remember that everybody has flaws...pointing out someone's flaws all the time is stressful and hurtful to the person. Its best to not point it out (with exceptions), but instead do something useful like have designated places that they realistically would put their stuff and post it notes reminding things, etc.[/quote]

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